Integrity does NOT mean perfection. Rather, it means a journey seeking perfection. The American church has it all mixed up and the confusion leads us to condemn and judge people harshly, "because they don't have integrity" (ie, "they aren't perfect").
"Let he who is without sin cast the first stone."
Yes, let's have accountability and correction. Yes, let's even have Biblical confrontation when necessary--BUT let us ALWAYS do it in a spirit of love seeking to restore a relationship that means something to us.
Remember, this is only ONE of the important qualities and characteristics that must be present and growing for relationships to be successful. If you are strong in this area--GREAT! Remain strong and growing in it! Then, work on the other qualities and characteristics. They ALL must be present and growing in ALL relationships! How are you doing on all the others, too?
R espect and Honor
E xpressions of Encouragement
L isten, Acknowledge and Consider Response
A ppreciate and Affirm
T rust In-Spite of and Through Brokenness
I dentify and Build on Commonalities
O rder in Place and Deliberate Actions
N urturance and Understanding
S elf-less Orientation
H ope, Faith, and Pursuit of Consistency
I ntegrity Journey
P ardon, GRACE, and Mercy MUST Abound