Chapter Six: Shower Her with Gifts

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Don’t buy her gifts that you will share. Don’t always buy her household gifts, either. Though not always bad, you should buy her personal gifts as well as practical ones. Both at the same time versus one or the other! Select meaningful gifts, meaningful to her—and you! And remember, it is the time, thought and effort that you spend finding and selecting her gifts that will mean alot to her.

160.
Seek Wisdom from Above
in Showering Her with Gifts.
Gifts are important. But ask for God to help you select meaningful gifts that will meet needs and desires that your wife has. Pray for guidance. Pray for God to show you ways to express your love through meaningful gifts and to receive her love through receiving her gifts.

161.
Remember, It’s the Thought
that Counts, NOT the Amount!
Keep in mind, gifts don’t have to be large or expensive to be meaningful and honor her. It doesn’t matter how much money you have or don’t have! The cost of the gift is not important to your wife.

162.
Be Creative!
Use your imagination and find a unique way to honor and love her that isn’t found in this booklet and regularly practice it! Our lives are all so unique and there are many ways you can listen to your wife and find individualized ways of honoring and loving her. (Then, write us and tell so we can pass it on!)

163.
Send Her Flowers for a Reason.
Flowers are great when she does something extra special at home, for her birthday, on your anniversary, when she has a bad day, or when you shared an especially nice weekend. Find a great reason to send her flowers.

164.
Treat Her to a Massage.
Buy her a certificate for a therapeutic massage at least once a month. Many fine hair salons have therapists, or look in the yellow pages.

165.
Show Her Value Through Fun Ways!
Buy her a candy bar and write her a note incorporating the name of the candy bar into some special message. For example, buy her a “$100,000 dollar bar.” Write her a note telling her that she makes you feel like a hundred grand and give it to her during church, at lunch or at work! Before you leave on an overnight trip, give her a sack with a bunch inside (see Appendix C). Only you can think of the most meaningful surprises your wife would like.

166.
Send Her Away For a Retreat.
Help her to arrange a retreat to get away by herself for a couple of days. Maybe go and see a college girlfriend, or shopping trip. Just a get-away.

167.
Hire Some Outside Cleaning Assistance.
Hire a maid service to come in once a month and do a thorough house cleaning. Pay them to do some of the difficult and time-consuming work like cleaning windows, scrubbing baseboards and other hard things that take alot of time. Talk about this first and ask permission to do it for her.

168.
Dedicate Something to Her.
A book, a ball game, a story or letter.

169.
Buy a Gift Certificate for a Pedicure/Manicure.
This may not make sense to you—just do it. Many fine hair salons have specialists available for this reason, or look in the yellow pages. Get her a gift certificate and include a note with it to tell her she deserves to be pampered!

170.
Give Meaningful Gifts to Her.
Select meaningful things to give her as gifts. Find out something of interest and purchase those things for her. For example: angelic figurines, earrings, a book, bracelets or a bird house.

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Make a Tape of Her Favorite Songs, Not Yours!
Or you can make her a tape of love songs, expressive of your love for her and to her—some slow, some fast, some Disney tunes, pop tunes, rythym and blues, top-forty, etc. Be creative! Go to a local record store, borrow albums, tapes, CD’s or whatever from friends. Spend time making it very personal and special.

172.
Help Her to Collect Something.
Ask her what she wants to collect and go out of your way to find times that you can purchase things for her. Support her buying things for herself, too.

173.
Send Her Flowers for No Reason.
“Just to say I love you!” or, “Just because.” Send them to her work (even if that is in the home) sometimes. Or stop and pick them up on your way home. Go for doughnuts on Saturday morning and come home with doughnuts and flowers!

174.
Regularly Fix Her Breakfast in Bed.
At bare minimum, take her a glass of juice or cup of coffee. Even if she says no, do it anyway. Carry it in to her when she wakes up. Don’t forget the silverware and napkins.

175.
Regularly Do Little Extras.
On your way home from work, buy her a special favorite or treat at the bakery and surprise her with it. Get in the habit of doing extras.

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Buy Her a Dress for No Reason.
Women are unique. Buy her items that she likes such as a birdhouse, spoons or something that she collects. Buy her something that would make her happy. Buy her what she likes. Think about what your wife would like and buy it for her. But, occasionally, go out and find a beautiful dress that she would like, write a note with it, wrap it and give it to her.